Tuesday’s Grateful List 

I haven’t posted in a while. I can honestly say I have missed it. I love the habit of consciously listing what I am grateful about. It makes me stop and reflect on all the good things that happen in my life. Life gets so busy and it is easy to forget how blessed I am. 

So today I am grateful I have wonderful friends who are so encouraging. 

They are so encouraging they have encouraged me to enter The Noosa Tri in a Team with them in 2018. We are entered!  

Now the training begins. I know it is only 40km on the bike but it is the first time I have had a cycling goal since the accident. It is very exciting!!! 

Thank you girls. 

Until next time 

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Tuesday’s Grateful List 

Today I am grateful for Ipswich Hospice Care. 

On Saturday afternoon I had the privilege of attending their annual Rose Planting Ceremony . This ceremony was instigated to provide an afternoon  for families to honour their family members who had died at Hospice by being involved in a ceremony where a rose was planted in memory of their loved one. 

The format of the day was music, the reading of selected prose and poetry, reading the names of the guests who had died in the last year and finally unveiling the memorial plaque and planting the rose. 

This ceremony has been going for a number of years and Hospice now has a beautiful rose garden with many plaques throughout. The blooms from the roses are cut and placed in vases throughout Hospice for the enjoyment of current Guests, families, team members and visitors. 

It was the most beautiful ceremony. I was overwhelmed with the emotion of the afternoon. One of the things that affected me was that 300 people were all in the one place honoring their loved ones. I looked out on a sea of faces – mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, children and friends. They were all grieving for a loved one. They were all on a journey of grief but this afternoon they were all sharing their grief quietly together  in a beautiful setting at a beautiful ceremony. 

The names were read out quite slowly so each family could take time to contemplate their lost loved one. 

I was honored to be able to do a reading. The reading I did was very moving: 

                                                                                       Loving from the Outside in Mourning from the Inside Out 

I am sad and I am present to all that is good in my life.

I feel lost and I am finding my way.

I miss him and I choose joy

I am bereft and I am actively loving others in my life

I grieve and I love.

I love and I mourn.  

                                      Alan D Wolfelt  

The music was very beautiful too. A lady sang this beautiful song . 

I am so grateful for this Community of Compassion and I am honored to be part of it as a volunteer .

Until next time 

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Monday’s Grateful List 

Today I am grateful for spending Sunday afternoon with a lovely group of people. Friends organised a get together for the group that was involved in the accident 6 weeks ago  on Doorknock Terrace where five cyclists got injured. 

It was lovely to catch up with all but one of them. I felt quite overwhelmed to be able to talk to them and give them a hug. To the cyclist who wasn’t able to make the afternoon – I am sending a virtual hug. 

It got me thinking about the advice I would like to share with them from the experience I have had following my nasty cycling accident. 

My thoughts are this 

  1. Be gentle on yourself. 
  2. Be gentle on your partner. That morning has effected them terribly too. 
  3. If you or your partner are struggling with what has happened or anger,anxiety or sadness are becoming unmanageable get some counselling. On second thoughts go and get some counselling anyway. Encourage your partner to do the same.
  4. Don’t be a hero – accept help when it is offered.  
  5. Practice being grateful. Start with the big thing – you are all alive . Then start appreciating the little things eg good coffee, yummy food, good music. It is helpful to write it down. If you can’t write it down there are plenty of apps you can use to record things like that. One I have used is Day One. 
  6. Lower your expectations. No really – lower your expectations. 
  7. Think small. Little changes in the progression of recovery are important. 
  8. Your world has shrunk. You can’t do the things you want to do at the moment. Try and get enjoyment from the little things like reading a book or watching a movie. Allow yourself permission to do those activities too. 
  9. Eat nutritious food and try and get enough sleep. Both are extremely important in the recovery process. 
  10. Surround yourself with a good team. Make sure you have respect and confidence in the people who are looking after you. Don’t be afraid to change those people if you are not happy with what they are offering. 
  11. Put goals on hold for the moment. There is plenty of time in the future to have goals. Focus at the moment on the day to day and making small changes each day.

Many people said to me two years ago that it would take me at least two years to get over my accident. I didn’t believe them. I thought once my surgical incisions had healed I would be back to how I was before the accident. I have learnt that we are never the same from one day to the next. I will never be the same person as I was two years ago. I am not the same person from one day to the next but I love life and I am very happy . 

I wish all those friends who have been injured and have a period of recovery ahead a speedy return to health and I hope you can focus on positive aspects of your recovery and not become overwhelmed with the negative. You won’t be the same person as before the accident but it is possible to enjoy life even though you may not be on your bike.  

 Until next time 

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Saturday’s Grateful List 

Today I am just grateful that I rode my bike this morning. That is all. 

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Sunday’s Grateful List 

Today I am grateful for going to the AFL Grandfinal in Melbourne last weekend.  

We started the late which is very unusual for us. We read the paper, had coffee in bed and had a leisurely morning. It was wonderful. 

At about 1030am we wondered down Flinders Lane to a wonderful brunch place that Rachel found. It was called Grain Store and was delicious! 

After brunch  we caught the tram to the MCG. 

I had decided even though I am not regular AFL supporter that I would support the Richmond Tigers. They won! 

It was a very fun day with good company and great seats . 

Until next time 

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Saturday’s Grateful List 

Today I am grateful for being in Melbourne. 

Today I am grateful for the day David and I shared yesterday. 

Our day started with a beautiful walk in the Botanical Gardens. 

We then had breakfast at my favourite breakfast place in Melbourne – Cumulus Inc

Our morning was then spent with our friends Rachel and Shannon exploring the Dior exhibition at the NGV

In celebration of the seventieth anniversary of the House of Dior, one of the world’s most prestigious couture houses, the National Gallery of Victoria presents The House of Dior: Seventy Years of Haute Couture.Exclusive to Melbourne, this exhibition is a collaboration between the NGV and the House of Dior and includes a sumptuous display of more than 140 garments designed by Christian Dior Couture between 1947 and 2017.The House of Dior explores the story of the fashion house through a series of themes, featuring works by the seven designers who have played key roles in shaping Dior’s renowned fashionable silhouette: Christian Dior, Yves Saint Laurent, Marc Bohan, Gianfranco Ferré, John Galliano, Raf Simons and Maria Grazia Chiuri.(taken from the NGV website). 

I loved the quotes and stories that accompanied the exhibition and of course I loved the Couture. 

After enjoying the beautiful exhibition David and I wandered the shops of Melbourne. We did  visit the Dior shop on Collins Street.  

Dinner on Friday night was amazing. I suggested we try High Line in Chapel Street. The ethos of High Line is ​sourcing up to 90% of the ingredients on the menu from their our own farm (Oak Valley) where they grow their own cattle, sheep and pigs along with their own fruit, vegetables. They also collect honey from their bee hives and forage for wild mushrooms and berries.

High Line Restaurant Chapel St, Melbourne ( Photograph from the website).

We could have chosen a seven course dugustation but decided on the three course A la Carte menu. Luckily three courses actually  meant 5! We started with an Amuse Bouche that was a very special vegemite scroll. 

I then had Moreton Bay bug followed by the most mouth watering beef and I finished off with strawberries that were to die for. We thought we had finished our meal when the waiter brought out a pine cone in a bowl which he lit and we were all given a chocolate marshmallow to toast. 

 I am so grateful for a day filled with my favourite things – early morning exercise, wonderful friendship, beautiful fashion and delicious food. 

Until next time 

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Wednesday’s Grateful List 

Today I am grateful for birthdays . 

I love birthdays! 

I love being 50 – I have survived life so far and I am here living a beautiful life. 

Today I am grateful for all the birthday celebrations we have had this week. 

Last Saturday we celebrated Sophia’s 15th Birthday at Chapter 4 at Paddington. She shared it with 15 other girls and it was lovely. 

On Friday night we celebrated Nicholas’s 21st at home with his friends and family. 

Then on Sunday it was my 50th birthday . 

I had a wonderful day. It started with a walk .

 I then snuggled up in bed and read a book. 

The day finished with a lovely family dinner. 

And then on Monday I shared morning tea with my lovely cycling friends and some school friends. 

I felt like a kid in a candy store! 

Thank you to all for all the lovely birthday wishes! 

I am so blessed to be alive! 

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Tuesday’s Grateful List

Today I am grateful that I had a three day yoga retreat over the weekend. 
My friend Kylie and I signed up to the three day weekend with My Yoga Retreat at Gymea Eco Retreat and Spa

“Why Retreat?”

By “retreating” from everyday life, from your usual habits and patterns and from other people’s expectations of you & delving deep into your yoga & meditation practice you will truly spend time for yourself and in doing so, get to know yourself better and replenish your tank, so that you can be there for those around you… more present, more compassionate and more content. 

From the retreat website:http://myyogaretreat.com.au/retreat-information/ 

Today I am grateful for the yoga. We did yoga all weekend. The morning started with sun salutations facing Mt Warning ( Wollumbin). It was a very special way to start the day. 

Today I am grateful for the amazing vegetarian food we ate all weekend. Even the deserts were vegetarian . 

Raspberry and coconut cake with avocado Grenache . Photo by Lightcapturer.com

Today I am grateful for the meditation we did.

Today I am grateful that I turned off my phone and did not take my iPad or computer for the weekend so I had a digital detox as well.

Today I am grateful for the hours of silence after dinner up until after breakfast each day.

Today I am grateful for the connection to nature that we made. 

Today I am grateful for the interesting people that shared the weekend. They were all there to enjoy the benefits of a beautiful place and do yoga. 

Today I am grateful for the two ladies who ran the retreat – Kara and Merryl. 

Photo courtesy of My Yoga Retreat

Today I am grateful for the photographer who took the beautiful photographs over the weekend. His name is Bevan Rijkaart from Lightcapturer Photo Services. He is based at Burleigh and his photographs are beautiful. 

Today I am grateful that I was able to go away on this retreat and I knew David was home looking after our family beautifully. 

Until next time 

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Tuesday’s Grateful List 

Today I am grateful that all the cyclists that were injured in last Friday’s terrible bicycle accident are relatively ok. The two girls are bruised and sore but they are both already talking about their new bikes. The boys have broken bones and may take a little longer to heal but they are alive and all but one is out of hospital. If you are reading this post today please send them all healing thoughts. I believe sending positive thoughts will make a difference to their recovery. 

Today I am grateful for my amazing weekend. The rowing season has finished for my daughters but the Head Coach Sally Calley from Girls’ Grammar offered to take a group of Mums out for an hour on Saturday morning. What fun ! We rowed in an eight and managed to stay upright and dry. A number of us are very keen to row together. It is strange how opportunities arise if you are open to new things and new experiences. 

Today I am grateful that my friend Dave Shelberg and I sang at a fundraising gig for some lovely girls riding from Byron Bay to Brisbane with an organisation called Chain Reaction. The money raised from their fundraising will go to Hummingbird House . Hummingbird House is a charity that supports kids and families with life limiting illnesses. 
Today I am grateful that on Sunday David and I went to Kinky Boots. It was a fabulous show. It was also very topical with the theme of the show accepting each other for the way we are. 

Today I am grateful that I did a windtrainer this morning. It was hard but hopefully it will be improving my fitness and you never know what the future will bring. 

Today I am grateful that when I got home from my windtrainer I saw a kangaroo in our garden! If I had not been out early I never would have seen it. 

I hope you are enjoying this beautiful spring weather and have a lovely day.

Until next time 

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Today I am not grateful.

Today I am not grateful. 

On Friday five of the cycling family of Brisbane got hit by a car. They were out on their regular Friday morning river loop when a car did a u turn in front of the group descending Doorknock Tce. All five of them had to be taken to hospital in ambulances. All five of them have significant injuries. I think they are all going to be ok. 

My husband David was in the group that day and was not involved in the crash but was one of the first on the scene. He said it was terrible. Bikes and people all over the road. He called me at 620am that morning. His first words to me were – I am ok but there has been a big crash. He asked me to get dressed, put the bike rack on my car and come to the scene. As so many had gone to hospital in ambulances they needed to get the bikes off the road. I got dressed and got in the car and got 1km from home when he rang again to let me know I wasn’t needed. I then went back home and waited. Waited for news of all my friends. Waited while  I was seeing and reading the news reports about the accident. 

It was a very distressing morning. Because I have been in a cycling accident I know how hard the coming days and months may be for my friends. 

I found the day they all had the accident difficult for a different reason. There were media reports all day about the accident and how serious it was. I was incredibly distressed by the comments by the people of Brisbane about who’s fault it was and the hate that was articulated about cyclists.

I actually got so angry I had to post on the Queensland Police Service Website myself. This is what I said -” I am appalled at the comments by the people of Brisbane on this post. None of you were at the accident. Drivers do not hit cyclists on purpose. Cyclists do not hit cars on purpose. This is a terrible accident and my thoughts and prayers are with all the people involved – cyclists, driver, bystanders, ambulance drivers and police on the scene. Instead of hurling blame at each other put your energy into sending love to all those involved for their wellbeing.”

I know there are many wonderful people in Brisbane but I am saddened at how many angry people are happy to blame another. The whole incident has really shaken my belief that people are intrinsically good and that people are generally kind. 

I think this incident is a good reminder to us all that 

The incident has left me feeling very empty. I feel very selfish because my thoughts and prayers should be for all the riders involved for their care and improvement. I do send prayers and love to them all. 
I also feel this is another incident that has effected how I feel about riding my bicycle. I have spent 2 years getting over my accident. I am now incredibly well. Over the last two years everything I have done has been to help make me stronger and fitter. It has been a long process with lots of hiccoughs. All the time I have worked towards getting back on my bike. Many people have expressed their concern for me getting back on my bike. I was determined to make my decision based on my reasons not based on other people’s fears. Three weeks ago I did my first full river loop. I was so excited. I loved it. I did another river loop two weeks ago and loved it even more. I loved coming around through Chelmer and seeing the sun come up over the river. I loved the chatter. I loved the company. I did not love the impatience that one of the drivers showed our riders going up a steep hill. There was nowhere to pass this rider so the driver had to sit behind them as they climbed the hill. The driver sat on the horn. This was very impatient. The length of the hill is only a couple of minutes. This driver had the potential for making the rider feel incredibly anxious for the sake of a couple of minutes. I have ridden in Europe where the drivers are incredibly patient, sit patiently behind cyclists until it is safe to pass. I cannot understand why Brisbane drivers are so impatient. I chose to ride on the River Loop because I thought this was a pretty safe option for riding. The incident on Friday where the car did a u turn into my friends has shaken my desire to continue riding my bike. I think it may be time to hang up my bike for a while and concentrate on walking. 

I am very very sad that I feel like this. As you all know I love riding. Maybe the future will hold more cycling adventures but at the moment my adventures are going to involve my feet and beautiful scenery not two wheels and beautiful scenery. 

I wish all of those riders in Brisbane and beyond care and safety. I also ask all those drivers of Brisbane to be more patient and caring of our fellow human beings. Please be kind and patient when you are near a rider. We are all mothers, fathers, sons and daughters. We all deserve care and we can all share the road. 

Until next time 

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